Why do we fall into destructive behavior? Why do we fall into traps and go for people that harm us? Are we weak? These questions are asked by those on the outside who perhaps have never known a day of sorrow, a day of loneliness, a day of yearning…a day of longing…and yet there are grains of truth in those questions that can’t quite be denied, they nag at me. They are offensive, sure, but truth often scratches at us, doesn’t it? We bristle uncomfortably at it, we draw back in fear from it.
In our darkest times, we are weaker, that’s the truth. There is a danger to this as well, because a predator, a person with ill intent grasps at this and holds on and latches on and uses every weakness, every loneliness, every insecurity, every piece that hurts to draw us to them as your anchor…because when we are weak, trying to stay afloat in a storm we seek an anchor.
As a Christian we know the truth. The Holy Spirit tells us that truth. He tells us WHO that anchor is. He tells us WHO that ROCK is. He tells us who will never fail us. He tells us who can carry that heavy burden, He tells us who can heal the broken heart…but we push Him away. We push the true Lover of our hearts and souls away, because in all honesty we say HE IS NOT ENOUGH. Lets be real.
But why is He not enough?
Jeremiah 17:5-10 says:
Thus says the LORD, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength, and whose heart turns away from the LORD. For he will be like a bush in the desert and will not see when prosperity comes, but will live in stony wastes in the wilderness, a land of salt without inhabitant. Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD and whose trust is the LORD. For he will be like a tree planted by the water, that extends its roots by a stream and will not fear when the heat comes; but its leaves will be green, and it will not be anxious in a year of drought nor cease to yield fruit. The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it? I the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give to each man according to each man according to his ways, according to the results of his deeds.
A loaded verse.
In my experience, time and time again I have put my trust in people and time and time again I have come away broken. Some people have intentionally, maliciously hurt me. Some people have hurt me unintentionally, and yet have hurt me all the same. Friends, family, a spouse…people. People who were supposed to be there in times of need and loneliness and yet when needed were not there to carry heavy, heavy burdens…because THEY COULDN’T. I expected them to care for my hurt like the LORD cares, to wipe my tears like the LORD does, but you see, they can’t see the deepest parts of me, nor can they fully care even though their words may convey such care. ONLY ONE CAN TRULY DO THAT. And yet again I let my HEART get ahead of me…this deceitful thing beating inside and I let this heart feel and I let the feelings dictate that trust should be placed on another person who is just as flawed as I am, who perhaps is just as hurting as I am.
Do you see?
Have you done this?
Well, let me tell you a predator preys on this. And if you don’t have Jesus as your armor, you will fall.
In previous blogs I’ve talked about how to protect yourself from online predators, I’ve talked about human trafficking, about domestic abuse…and all of this in some way perhaps can be brought back to who you trust. No, not all things can be avoided. You can’t help if someone kidnaps you. But being LURED away as an adult can be helped. You CAN protect your heart if your heart is in the hands of Jesus.
He is not an imaginary friend. He is not a fictional character. He is the God who became man. He is the one who came from Heaven and died on the Cross for all your sins, all your flaws, for that deceiving heart that constantly is selfish, that constantly fails, that constantly mocks you, that constantly tells you that you are not good enough. He is the Son of God who is here to tell you that you are his Bride and you are made SPOTLESS in Him and He has chosen you, and He DOES love you, AND THAT MATTERS! In the end, if you do meet a man worthy of you, He must honor Him and in honoring Him HE WILL HONOR YOU, he will not defile you. He will cherish you, he will point you to the Cross when you are weak because he will realize that a man is not strong enough to carry a burden by himself, he will take you back to your Groom.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
The verse goes on to list (read on your own), the armor you are to put on: truth, righteousness, Gospel of peace, shield of faith, helmet of salvation, sword of the Spirit (which is the word of God). This is the armor you must have in your daily life, whether it is in dating, work, church, family, etc. You must have it on EVERY DAY, because you don’t go to war without armor and satan constantly attacks you, if you are unarmored, you will fall and then you will ask God why…well, you were not prepared.
We often think because we are adults we can make decisions and we know better than God…but lets not forget…we are not more adult than God, and He knows better what can protect us. If He whispers, or shouts to your soul: NO! Or stay away, this person is bad…LISTEN! Stay under His protective wings and seek His heart above all else, He is your/my beloved and He loves us well.