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This topic of immigration is like a bomb of feelings on the internet. The emotions are so high and explosive and raw, you start the topic and the rage starts flaring…and logic is tossed out the window.
Trump is seen as an evil man, a Hitler who will put immigrants in concentration camps and kill them off one by one.
To me this topic also hits close to home as when I was eight I immigrated to this country with my parents and my sister…LEGALLY. I have watched conversations on Facebook, both on Fox and CNN on this topic and have seen sentiments differ among those who came here legally and those who came here illegally and they clash…for very good reason. One side followed a painstaking, time consuming, pricey process to come here, sacrificing much, giving up much in order to do that and to follow the law, while others came through and even broke through the back door illegally, skipping each step.
I will address a few points of fear. One fear is that there will be mass deportation of parents that have children that would remain behind and ‘How is that fair?’ they ask. To me that question could also be asked by other people who break the law who get sent to jail and leave behind children. When you break the law, there are excruciating, heartbreaking consequences that you failed to factor in or bother to think about because you were too busy breaking the law and profiting from breaking the law. My father had a saying that I always found to be true: What is hidden will always come to light. Well that is what is happening now.
For years and years there were people who came from other countries who worked under the table for next to nothing and payed no taxes on that money and drove the rest of the market down for the rest of the business owners. Let me just give you a few examples: In my parent’s line of business (commercial and residential cleaning), they often went out to companies (mass companies) and gave bids on how much it would cost to clean their building and TIME AND TIME AGAIN they lost the bid to illegal immigrants who would do it next to nothing (and believe me my parents learned quick to bid as low as possible to still try to make a profit and they WOULD STILL LOOSE). The only way that is possible is when someone doesn’t pay taxes on the bid they offer because they don’t have to factor in those costs. The same goes for cabin cleaning or house cleaning, or farming or any line of business. Immigrants that are here illegally would claim that no one else would do the jobs they do and THEY ARE RIGHT…not for NOTHING because they drove down the market in those fields, they set the standard so low that people are not willing to pay fair market price for labor. This is just ONE of the reasons Trump won, because Americans (immigrated Americans and those born here alike) are TIRED of this manipulation. No one has a problem with people wanting to come to the United States of America…but COME HERE LEGALLY and PAY YOUR TAXES.
Another point that has been cried about is the time it takes to come here legally…and here forgive me for sounding callous but I don’t have much pity. I will tell you my family’s story and I can guarantee you that there are other’s like us that have had a harder story than ours. We lived in Romania during the time of communism. Before my parents were even married my father wanted to come to America and put in for a visa (that was 10 years before I was born). There was one time my father tried to flee the country but I truly believe it was God putting His foot down and saying no when my father actually got caught and he spent nine months in jail in Romania (turned in by his best friend). He was young and he learned the hard way that God will not have him going into any country the back way, he did not try again. Not because he was a coward but because He believed if something was God’s will then GOD will open those doors…and He did…AFTER communism fell..after the danger and lack of food had passed (interesting to me). Even after all this, when the visas were approved for our family we had to pass through Rome and we had to go through a vetting process, we were without much money, we had to stay in Rome for two weeks (now Rome is beautiful if you have money for sight seeing but we did not). Anyway, we were in Rome, we were placed in a hotel, it was not a bad hotel, but it was not fancy. We were not mistreated but we had to wait our turn until we could go to speak to the Ambassador and be vetted. I do not remember much of this as I was only eight, just bits and pieces. I remember spaghetti..it was very good, I remember the hotel room that we stayed in, for me it was impressive. In any case, my point is there was vetting to be done and it was done and we did not make a fuss about it because it was the law and it was what was required to come here legally and it was done. Once we came here after five years we naturalized and my parents took their citizenship test and we are Americans…that my dear people is how the process works. It is long, for some it was longer. For some it was harder. But they did it legally. And for those who did it legally and suffered WORSE to hear those who cry and whine that came here illegally is like a HUGE slap in the face. It is like seeing a drug dealer make a ton of money while the rest of us wallow in debt, it is exactly like that.
So forgive me if I am callous when it comes to the immigration issue. Because for me, I remember the Romanian revolution. I remember both my parents going to join the revolutionaries. I remember worrying about my school teacher who lived near the revolt. I remember seeing a charred body of a communist officer in the street the next day…and that is where I came from…legally. Please don’t tell me that it can’t be done legally. Don’t tell me excuses as to why we should let people in our country un-vetted, because we were vetted (and were treated humanly and it IS possible) if there is a will to do it right.
Also I will say Melania Trump probably knows a thing or two about what I am talking about, so to those immigrants that are worried about their safety…I would say, instead of slut shaming her, appeal to her, because she came from a country like mine, she would understand poverty quite well, she rose from quite a bit to get to where she is (and yes perhaps in questionable ways, but she did). But I’ve said it before, perhaps she can be an advocate…not your enemy, if you are only wise enough to make an ally of her and not just swallow all the junk the media sells you.
The story of Rachel, Anna, Megan collides in this gripping psychological thriller that is told from each of the woman’s perspective.
When I started listening to this story on Audible I wasn’t quite certain what to think of it or where it would lead or if I liked any one of these ladies. I will say the story is not beautiful. It has cuss words and it is dark. But there is much to be learned from it. It goes with much of what I have been saying about manipulators and those of you who are in a relationship with such a man/woman I would recommend reading this if for nothing else but perhaps to open your eyes and perhaps to make you understand that the consequences can be tragic.
This of course is fiction but I found Rachel’s journey in particular very gripping. She is a drunk when we meet her, she is at rock bottom. She sees herself as ugly and useless, she takes a train back and fourth pretending to go to a job she no longer has. Here the story begins because here she sees something and here she begins to have a new purpose…here a new resolve comes back to her…a determination is born, and here I begin to love her, because I relate to her struggle, even to her addiction. Perhaps not to alcohol, but to her depression, to her darkness, to her desperation to be useful.
We find out along the way about Anna, the mistress that became the wife of Tom who was once Rachel’s husband, how they got married. We get to hear Anna’s voice too, we hate her, we then question if we hate her.
We hear Megan’s voice who is very troubling because she has also gone through so much and of course she is the one the story revolves around, she is the mystery that must be solved. Who is Megan? Do we love or hate Megan?
But the moment that I love the most in the book is when Rachel realizes the lie, that one lie that she has been told about herself from the very beginning (spoiler coming), the lie that she was the problem in her marriage, that SHE was the one at fault for EVERYTHING, the lie she readily bought, and when she sees that lie being told to another person…that is the moment I love Rachel very much, because she is strong, she is not weak even though her heart is torn. THIS is the center of it all, this is what a master manipulator does, and this book does a masterful job of showing us this, how a victim is made and how a victimizer does it all…but through it all a lesson can be learned…how to NOT be a victim, how to understand when someone tries to turn their faults on you, to open your eyes and SEE. My review for this book is a five star despite the language because of the fact that I think it can bring awareness to this very hard topic.
There are many in this world who have a compassionate heart and as such are driven to make a difference, to make a change. After all, as Christians we are called to be the light of the world and the salt of the earth. (Matthew 5:13-16)
Does this mean that we should try to change people, that we should try to change a person who is clearly showing the dangerous traits of an abuser, predator and a manipulator? Should we go into a relationship thinking we can change a person by being a light to them and salt to them…a flavor?
Personally, I have learned the hard way that a person cannot be changed by another person…only God can do that. If a person does not want to be changed they will not change, they will only devour your flavor that you give to the world and you will be left flavorless…salt-less, light-less–extinguished, and only the grace of Jesus will revive you (and the grace of Jesus is great because the Bible DOES say nothing can separate you from His love, so don’t let satan blind you from the cross). The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? (NASB) In a relationship, you are not to be bound together with someone who doesn’t believe in Christ as you do because of the fact that YOU cannot change them and there is no guarantee that they will ever come to Christ and you will suffer for this because either you will be pulled away from the light that is in your heart, or worse the abuser, manipulator/predator will do far worse (remember you cannot change a person).
This being said, there are ministries in church that DO minister to people that are disturbed, that have mental problems and you CAN partner with such groups to reach out to such people if that is your desire and if that is where your heart is. There are churches and local ministries in your areas (I can almost guarantee you) that minister to prisons, to shelters, to all sorts of groups that are in need of hearts such as yours. My recommendation is to PARTNER with such groups and never go alone. You CAN do something, you CAN be a light in the darkness and the HOLY SPIRIT can reach out to a lost soul through you, but don’t go alone. Be smart.
As always, I stress, don’t become a victim. Christ never intended that.
Matthew 10:16-20 “Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves; so be shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves. But beware of men, for they will hand you over to the courts and scourge you in their synagogues; and you will even be brought before governors and kings for My sake, as a testimony to them and to the Gentiles. But when they hand you over, do not worry about how or what you are to say; for it will be given to you in that hour what you are to say. For it is not you who speak, but it is the Spirit of the Father who speaks in you. (NASB Bold added by me)
See, Jesus never intended for us to be blind victims, He wants us to be wise in our walk, and when we are to speak out and let His light burst forth…UNDERSTAND that it is the Spirit of the Father speaking…and ultimately dear one THAT IS WHAT WILL CHANGE A PERSON, because it is the power of the Gospel that is life changing.
That is what I will leave you with:
Romans 1:16 For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. (NASB)
Why do we fall into destructive behavior? Why do we fall into traps and go for people that harm us? Are we weak? These questions are asked by those on the outside who perhaps have never known a day of sorrow, a day of loneliness, a day of yearning…a day of longing…and yet there are grains of truth in those questions that can’t quite be denied, they nag at me. They are offensive, sure, but truth often scratches at us, doesn’t it? We bristle uncomfortably at it, we draw back in fear from it.
In our darkest times, we are weaker, that’s the truth. There is a danger to this as well, because a predator, a person with ill intent grasps at this and holds on and latches on and uses every weakness, every loneliness, every insecurity, every piece that hurts to draw us to them as your anchor…because when we are weak, trying to stay afloat in a storm we seek an anchor.
As a Christian we know the truth. The Holy Spirit tells us that truth. He tells us WHO that anchor is. He tells us WHO that ROCK is. He tells us who will never fail us. He tells us who can carry that heavy burden, He tells us who can heal the broken heart…but we push Him away. We push the true Lover of our hearts and souls away, because in all honesty we say HE IS NOT ENOUGH. Lets be real.
But why is He not enough?
Jeremiah 17:5-10 says:
Thus says the LORD, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength, and whose heart turns away from the LORD. For he will be like a bush in the desert and will not see when prosperity comes, but will live in stony wastes in the wilderness, a land of salt without inhabitant. Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD and whose trust is the LORD. For he will be like a tree planted by the water, that extends its roots by a stream and will not fear when the heat comes; but its leaves will be green, and it will not be anxious in a year of drought nor cease to yield fruit. The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it? I the LORD, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give to each man according to each man according to his ways, according to the results of his deeds.
A loaded verse.
In my experience, time and time again I have put my trust in people and time and time again I have come away broken. Some people have intentionally, maliciously hurt me. Some people have hurt me unintentionally, and yet have hurt me all the same. Friends, family, a spouse…people. People who were supposed to be there in times of need and loneliness and yet when needed were not there to carry heavy, heavy burdens…because THEY COULDN’T. I expected them to care for my hurt like the LORD cares, to wipe my tears like the LORD does, but you see, they can’t see the deepest parts of me, nor can they fully care even though their words may convey such care. ONLY ONE CAN TRULY DO THAT. And yet again I let my HEART get ahead of me…this deceitful thing beating inside and I let this heart feel and I let the feelings dictate that trust should be placed on another person who is just as flawed as I am, who perhaps is just as hurting as I am.
Do you see?
Have you done this?
Well, let me tell you a predator preys on this. And if you don’t have Jesus as your armor, you will fall.
In previous blogs I’ve talked about how to protect yourself from online predators, I’ve talked about human trafficking, about domestic abuse…and all of this in some way perhaps can be brought back to who you trust. No, not all things can be avoided. You can’t help if someone kidnaps you. But being LURED away as an adult can be helped. You CAN protect your heart if your heart is in the hands of Jesus.
He is not an imaginary friend. He is not a fictional character. He is the God who became man. He is the one who came from Heaven and died on the Cross for all your sins, all your flaws, for that deceiving heart that constantly is selfish, that constantly fails, that constantly mocks you, that constantly tells you that you are not good enough. He is the Son of God who is here to tell you that you are his Bride and you are made SPOTLESS in Him and He has chosen you, and He DOES love you, AND THAT MATTERS! In the end, if you do meet a man worthy of you, He must honor Him and in honoring Him HE WILL HONOR YOU, he will not defile you. He will cherish you, he will point you to the Cross when you are weak because he will realize that a man is not strong enough to carry a burden by himself, he will take you back to your Groom.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
The verse goes on to list (read on your own), the armor you are to put on: truth, righteousness, Gospel of peace, shield of faith, helmet of salvation, sword of the Spirit (which is the word of God). This is the armor you must have in your daily life, whether it is in dating, work, church, family, etc. You must have it on EVERY DAY, because you don’t go to war without armor and satan constantly attacks you, if you are unarmored, you will fall and then you will ask God why…well, you were not prepared.
We often think because we are adults we can make decisions and we know better than God…but lets not forget…we are not more adult than God, and He knows better what can protect us. If He whispers, or shouts to your soul: NO! Or stay away, this person is bad…LISTEN! Stay under His protective wings and seek His heart above all else, He is your/my beloved and He loves us well.
It is almost indisputable that in this day and age love has become a word we have become desensitized to. We don’t understand it’s meaning anymore. We don’t understand that above all love is the very definition of commitment.
Not many are willing to commit, it is too much of a sacrifice. The ‘what if’s’ win out (what if my feelings change, what if I’m no longer attracted to him/her). What we don’t realize is that feelings are deceitful and they can wreck our lives worse than a tornado if we base love solely based on feelings. We often use the term: falling in love. No I disagree with this. Falling implies chaos, an accident, pain, horrible consequences. Love needs to be more intentional than this if we don’t want to be left with horrible scars that take years to heal (believe me, I know a bit about this). Love is the thing that remains when the feelings go away, where you would still battle through hard days with that person even when you are hard pressed to like that person because you simply know that despite everything, despite the flaws, you would die for that person. It is a friendship that develops and blooms, it is a seed that is planted and watered and cared for and then can be enjoyed with it’s beautiful aroma. Love is not simply going to a flower boutique and picking a rose that you have not tended and nurtured (yes this coming from a person who has no green thumb). There is no satisfaction in that. But to know that the flower will continue to bloom in the garden where it belongs with your love and care, there is a satisfaction to that, because you have poured out your time into that. It is the same with friendship that develops into a forever love.
Love honors above all else, it knows how to sacrifice, it knows how to respect that which is beautiful and pure. It does not tear down and storm through and then leave everything wilted and dead.
Many of us have known the kind of ‘love’ that is not love. The kind that defiles the very sacredness of love and we are tempted to never love again…but that is only because we have never encountered the Christ love that can exist in a man or a woman who know Christ. You see, Jesus said this to men:
Ephesians 5: 25-28 (NASB) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;
If men were to HONOR women like in the verse above, a few things would happen:
If the above is done, then it would be very easy for the wife to SUBMIT to such a man as it is preached over and over from the pulpits. That is the kind of man that is worthy to be the head of a family, because he KNOWS what family is.
NOW, keeping all of the above in mind, many young and older people these days find it hard to find the kind of love described above, because as I said, not many people value that kind of love anymore, or if they do are tired of waiting for their Boaz or Ruth and so we seek other avenues.
This is where online dating comes into the picture for many ladies…and men. So, if you must go on this hunt, in this manner, I would say please be safe. There are a few steps you can take in staying safe:
The above article mentions not giving your address, phone number or real email until trust is established, this should be a give in. I would also add if you have children, no meeting of them until a deep level of trust is established.
Don’t get lured into going far distances and don’t be naive enough to believe sob stories…because most likely that is what they are. Predators prey on sympathy and if you are a caring person they will pick up on that. Check facts…run background checks if you must (some go as far as hiring an investigator to run background checks though keep in mind just because someone comes back with a clear record doesn’t make them a good person…just hasn’t gotten caught).
Move slow, don’t get sucked into moving into a fast relationship, don’t let your emotions rule you, take a step back and let your logic take over for a bit.
Listen and watch for clues in behavior once you do meet that person. Does this person constantly want you AWAY from friends and family? This should serve as a red flag. A person with good intentions would normally be eager to get to know both your friends and family just as you would his. It goes both ways.
When you go on your dates, tell a friend or family member when and where you will be (especially in the beginning stages) and as the article above mentions, YOU drive your own car, though it might be romantic to be picked up by a gentleman, keep in mind this is NOT someone you have known for years and in this case it is not safe or appropriate. Oh yes, and don’t go to a secluded place for heaven’s sake…make it a good populated, public place, in broad daylight.
As for in case things do go bad…I would say it wouldn’t be a bad idea to have pepper spray or at least know how to defend yourself.
Remember, you are worth being safe. You are worth not compromising. You are worth loving. Don’t become a victim, stay smart and don’t let your heart be torn out by a person who preys on those with good hearts who just want to truly love. Above all else, love is forever. It is not fleeting. It is not a fling. It is not just a physical relationship…and for the physical to exist, I truly believe that man/woman needs to be ready to commit to marriage. Don’t compromise, you are priceless in the eyes of Jesus, you were bought with a price! Demand that whoever you meet treats you with the honor that Christ demands.
She won’t leave. Why won’t she leave? Or in some cases he. He is clearly a psychopath and an abuser, EVERYONE sees it. The signs are there.
We all ask that. We make the victim of abuse sound stupid, pitiful, like they have a very clear choice. How wrong we are.
Abuse comes in so many forms. Some never suffer the pain of a fist, but do suffer the constant verbal slams that through them into such a dark abyss that they can’t get up, they can’t breathe, they can’t see their worth. They can’t get up.
First I want to address the signs of an abuser. If anyone sees these, perhaps it’s one step closer to helping the person being abused and taking power away from the coward that is the abuser.
Of course no one begins dating an abuser. No one in their right mind would. First comes the charm, the ‘smarts’ the pouring out of compliments, and he lifts you up, he makes you feel like he is your soul mate and there is absolutely no one else in this world that would ever make you feel the way he does. He is the Cowboy Casanova as some would say. He makes you feel like he can actually protect you from the world that maybe in some ways has hurt you. And here’s the thing, an abuser knows how to pick his targets, the ones who have been broken a bit and because when you are broken you seek to depend on someone he knows he can be that crutch…and he will be that for a little bit. He will rescue you and then the manipulation starts.
You see, now he will convince you of all the things you need to be rescued from. Number one thing that needs to go is anyone that can see him as a threat. Who might that be? If you have family, that has got to go, so he will ‘rescue’ you from that. Friends? Yup, your friends are bad, they are stupid, they are too stuck up, their morals are to uptight, they ‘wouldn’t understand our love’. He sets up an ‘us against the world’ mentality. He sets up a fiction world where he is the only hero in the victim’s world. If possible he will move the victim as far from those the victim knows as possible. If a friend has plans, he has more important plans, or he is sick and needs your care. SOMETHING will happen where you will NOT be allowed to see your friends and if you do it will be with a tainted mentality that he has already planted in your mind.
Also according to About the Issue “Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior characterized by the intent to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner or other family members. The abuse can be established over time and in most cases, it begins subtly with insults, a shove or by alienating the survivor from family and friends. With time, the abusive behavior can be more frequent and severe.”
The key thing, there is always an excuse that excuses the abuser’s behavior. Often, the victim is the problem. “If you understood me better, if you did this better, you know I have this issue! Etc.” An abuser rarely if ever takes ownership. An apology will be offered but it is usually followed with “But maybe next time you shouldn’t, or should be careful not to provoke me….”
Feelings of course are central here too. They always are. Because the victim LOVES the abuser, that is the whole part of the ENTIRE manipulation, the feeling game and the abuser will play on that until the victim sees it for what it is and gets the courage to either reach out for help and walk away. But it is not that easy depending on how violent he/she is. This is why I write this. If you are seeing these signs in anyone, or if you are in the beginning of such a relationship, walk away while you still can, because believe me, an abuser only escalates. He might be only verbally abusive today, maybe for years, but soon he/she WILL escalate. It’s only a matter of when.
You may think you can change him…like in the movies. That you are the Beauty and he is the Beast that can be tamed. Please understand that you do not have such power. I firmly believe only God can change a person. Such people need deep professional help, and you are not it.
You might be convinced he is the underdog you have to save that everyone else has cast aside. While believe me, I am a firm believer in second chances, and I seek out the forgotten and lonely…understand that an abuser only plays on these sentiment for what he/she can gain.
What are they seeking to gain?
It is different in each situation. In some, it is money. In some it is power. In some it is affection at the cost of beating you and not allowing you to give that affection to ANYONE ELSE (but notice that he is allowed to give affection to anyone he pleases). There is always a double standard with an abuser.
You might leave your family and friends, and maybe for a while he might too…but he won’t leave them forever. He/she will NEVER do that because the goal was to get YOU away from your family and friends…not the other way around.
To those who see these sighs of abuse (in a neighbor, co-worker, friend), don’t let them withdraw. If you know where they live, constantly visit, make the abuser know that you are watching and that the victim is not alone. Don’t confront the abuser, but be there for the victim until the victim is willing to reach out to you. When that happens, seek out law enforcement. Do not be silent. Do not be a shadow. Learn to survive.
A new movie is coming out October 14, 2016 and the words for the feelings I have for it well, I can’t quite pin it to words, but I am glad for it. It’s a movie that needs to come and I truly hope that people pack the theaters for this one and I hope that awareness rise from this movie for the victims of Human Trafficking. This has been on my heart for a very very long time but like many people I have stood on the side lines and maybe have donated here and there to help. But no more. I can’t say too much as to what has changed this except that it has become personal.
People in the United States think of Human Trafficking as an outside problem, in our minds it takes place in third world countries, neighboring countries, mafia, movies, etc, it’s too unbelievable to think of it in our own back yard. The fact is Human Trafficking takes place in EVERY SINGLE STATE OF THE UNITED STATES. According to an article on CNN: “Human trafficking doesn’t discriminate on the basis of race, age, gender, or religion. Anyone can be a victim. Most of the human trafficking victims in the world are female and under 18, but men and older adults can be trafficking victims too. While poverty, lack of education, and belonging to a marginalized group are all factors that increase risk of trafficking, victims of modern-day slavery have included children from middle-class families, women with college degrees, and people from dominant religious or ethnic groups.” 5 Things you need to know about human trafficking
This is what is not stressed, most articles I have seen focuses on children and those who have been smuggled here. While this is huge and a very large percent of the human trafficking problem, adults in the middle class and upper class, both white, black and all races are trafficked, those who sell human beings do not discriminate, all they see is profit. The tricky part about the adult population that I have learned, and the DANGEROUS part is if the adult is lured away and goes WILLINGLY (or seemingly WILLINGLY) then the authorities have very little that they can actually do to bring them back home safely to their families and loved ones. The one captured may be threatened, or may have had their families threatened and there simply is very little that can be done… or so it seems.
There are also many Myths and Misconceptions about Human Trafficking: Myths and Misconceptions
The internet in my opinion has also made it ripe picking for those who want to engage in these sorts of activities in picking their victims and people need to be aware of what they are getting into before they put their information into online dating sites (if you are an adult). Be aware that predators are not honest and will prey on you and they are aware of the limitations of the law in protecting you. Be smart, do not become a victim. A person who will try to manipulate you and has won you over and has gotten you will try to convince you that law enforcement is your enemy, please understand this is not the case. It is a tactic an abuser, a trafficker will use. Also understand that the goal of a person with bad intent is to seclude you from all you know (family, friends, co-workers, the area you are familiar with, things you know) the more secluded and far you are from home the better for them and the worse for you and the more dependent you are on them. Do not give them that control. Even if you have given that control, take it back, make new friends, make your face known, do not become a shadow, make allies wherever you are. (This is what I have learned from my own time in being far from my family when I was in a relationship that was emotionally and physically abusive). MAKE ALLIES!!! Even if you feel that you can’t turn to the friends you had (if he/she makes you think that…and he will try to make you think that) you CAN make new friends and they can be your salvation in many ways or at least a life line until you can make a run for it.
Also, understand that if you go to the police, most Sheriff station are equipped to take you to a safe house, they have resources, and they are willing to use them to help you and get you to a safe spot until your family can get you and they can ensure your family is safe too if your family has been threatened.
Again, will say, I am glad this movie is coming out. It is time people stop being silent. It is time people open their eyes. It is time people DO SOMETHING. It is time for laws to change that help not only children (though believe me, I have children and I want my children protected above all else) but also to help adults in crisis too and not only if they are seeking help, but if there is clear and present danger and manipulation. It is time that we are silent no more, I know I won’t be silent.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations.”
“Then Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife, and perform your duty as a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.” Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother’s wife, he wasted his seed on the ground in order not to give offspring to his brother. 1But what he did was displeasing in the sight of the LORD; so He took his life also.”
Yesterday someone shared one of my posts asking (this person stated they are Christian otherwise this question and responses might not be so disturbing and might be understandable since they are not claiming to be a follower of the heavenly Father):
“Can someone please explain to me why planned parenthood is compared to Hitler? It’s seems that when Christians are opposed to something they always compare it with Hitler. I’m Catholic and I personally wouldn’t get an abortion, but I wouldn’t hate a woman that did. I also find nothing wrong with using an aborted fetus for research.”
“The fetus would have next to no chance surviving at that point. Unless it takes a breath it’s not a baby.”
“In all honesty, those fetuses are important. Research is important. It helps. Nothing Hitler did helped. So there is no true comparison”
I will say that if anyone claims to be Christian and yet still upholds abortion, they need to read the Bible. No one is forcing anyone to be Christian or claim to be Christian, but again if we claim to be Christian we need to not call right or good what God calls evil and an abomination. If you don’t agree with God, then simply don’t put an image of following Him when you really can’t stand that God DOES say what is right and wrong and what He says is right and wrong offends you.
It’s interesting to me how a ‘fetus’ is not a baby until it takes a breath (and in some circles even THAT’S debatable), and yet pro choice has NO PROBLEM whatsoever using BODY PARTS for research. This is the problem with society, a person, a living thing becomes nothing more than an OBJECT to profit off of (do research on to help others who interestingly enough were ‘worthy’ enough to be allowed life).
Abortion, no matter how you cut it, is an extremely selfish murderous act that is legalized. If I was pregnant right now and my life was in danger and there had to be a choice between me and the baby, in my mind there is no choice at all, to kill another life in order to save another is unacceptable. If I was raped and became pregnant from that violation, how the heck is that the baby’s fault?????????? Again, punishing a life that didn’t even have a choice for something someone else did. Abortion is void of love. It is all about me, me, me, me and how I don’t ‘suffer’ because of the child forming inside me.
Where has love gone in this world? And by love I mean that selfless, self sacrificing kind, not the tingly crap going around like a virus. I don’t mean the all about ‘how I feel’ kind of love where if something is inconvenient or even slightly uncomfortable I leave or abort.
I am a single mom with three BEAUTIFUL, AMAZING children. Would life be more comfortable and easy without them? Well, strictly from a materialistic perspective, heck yea. I would be able to spend more money on me, maybe I’d be able to party more or hang out with friends or travel, etc. But from an actual lasting, meaningful perspective that goes beyond the materialistic, heck no!!!! No matter how hart it gets from a physical materialistic perspective, my kid’s lives, laughter, souls, FAR outweigh any hardship. It could easily be argued that when I look at my kids I might suffer pain and discomfort because they might remind me of my unfaithful, abusive husband…but that would be the stupidest thing to argue. How in the world is that the kids fault? Same thing goes with rape.
This all being said look at the verses below dealing with life, and then tell me that the LIFE forming in the womb is NOT a life until it breathes. If you can still say THAT, don’t bother claiming loyalty to God because you will answer to him for the blood of the babies being MURDERED for the sake of ‘research’ for those privileged enough to have been given a chance to live already. Those little souls will one day look at you on the other side of eternity and you will be condemned for the role you played in not allowing them life.
Also, we tend to blame God for AIDS, Cancer and other afflictions with no cures or not always effective cures…well if Jeremia 1:5 is right, then you have ABORTED those cures. God had a plan for each of those LIVES, but you ABORTED, you MURDERED those plans….so next time you begin to blame God…close that mouth if you had any part in supporting abortion..
And you might perhaps say that this is a hateful rant. I beg to differ. I don’t hate those who have had abortion because even after the fact God still offers forgiveness, but I absolutely HATE that act that takes a life. We can beautify it with ‘noble’ intents, but murder is murder even if it is done to benefit another life. It is EVIL in the eyes of God.
Also, I will say it is a crying shame when an animal is more protected than a ‘fetus’. For example a Bald Eagle Egg is more protected than an unborn child (there are no fines or punishments from the government for aborting a baby, yet there are fines and you can do jail time for doing damage to a Bald Eagle Egg). The egg of a Bald Eagle is valued as a potential life simply because it was endangered. Don’t believe me, read on:
“The bald eagle will continue to be protected by the Bald and Golden Eagle Protection Act even though it has been delisted under the Endangered Species Act. This law, originally passed in 1940, provides for the protection of the bald eagle and the golden eagle (as amended in 1962) by prohibiting the take, possession, sale, purchase, barter, offer to sell, purchase or barter, transport, export or import, of any bald or golden eagle, alive or dead, including any part, nest, or egg, unless allowed by permit Bald Eagle sitting in tree (16 U.S.C. 668(a); 50 CFR 22). “Take” includes pursue, shoot, shoot at, poison, wound, kill, capture, trap, collect, molest or disturb (16 U.S.C. 668c; 50 CFR 22.3). The 1972 amendments increased civil penalties for violating provisions of the Act to a maximum fine of $5,000 or one year imprisonment with $10,000 or not more than two years in prison for a second conviction. Felony convictions carry a maximum fine of $250,000 or two years of imprisonment. The fine doubles for an organization. Rewards are provided for information leading to arrest and conviction for violation of the Act.” From: http://www.fws.gov/midwest/eagle/protect/laws.html
If you are not Christian please understand I am not ranting against you so much as I am speaking against those who say they follow God and yet partake in what God says is wrong. A life is precious. Life is a GIFT, not a curse. The fact that you are even reading this means someone thought it was worth personal sacrifice to give birth to you. You are one that was welcomed into this world. You are one who had and opportunity to make a good or a bad life. You are a gift and were valued as such. Sure there are those who are born into bad families, but even so you are still a gift even if they don’t value you. My point is life is PRICELESS. You are worth MORE than a Bald Eagle (though I do love Bald Eagles and other animals for they are also a marvelous part of God’s creation). You were worth Jesus dying on the cross for so that you can enjoy eternal life. Every life should (every ‘fetus’ if you insist on calling it that) have the opportunity to LIVE.
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you; I have appointed you a prophet to the nations.”
“Then Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife, and perform your duty as a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.” Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother’s wife, he wasted his seed on the ground in order not to give offspring to his brother. But what he did was displeasing in the sight of the LORD; so He took his life also.”
I find this to be beyond sad. I pray for this family and that God will defend them.
Oregon- Oregon Labor Commissioner Brad Avakian issued the final order to Melissa and Aaron Klein to pay a fine of $135,000 to a lesbian couple, Rachel Bowman-Cryer, and her partner Laurel Bowman-Cryer after refusing service for religious reasons, as they upheld their beliefs in traditional marriage and did not wish to take part in serving to a lesbian wedding.
”We stand for God’s truth, God’s Word and freedom for ALL Americans,” and “We are here to obey God, not man…” were some quotes from the Sweet Cakes by Melissa Facebook page.
The Klein’s lawyer was reported as saying “Avakian’s orders are further proof that the state is trying to force businesses they don’t politically agree with to conform.”
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